Building a relationship to last a lifetime

“To be my wife (or husband), to have and to hold from this day forward, for better, for worse, for richer, for poorer, in sickness and in health, to love and to cherish, till death us do part, according to God's holy law, and this is my solemn vow.”  - The famous and traditional marriage vow we often hear during a wedding ceremony which promises a lifetime relationship among married couples.

In this modern era, is a lifelong union between a man and a woman still possible? Well, definitely my answer is Yes! Love combined with a healthy relationship with God and with each other is the rule of the thumb. Couples with good relationships can get along better and perk up life in all aspects. 

With their willingness to adapt to changes and commitment to work things out together through thick and thin as life goes on will keep the link strong and meaningful.

What makes a healthy love relationship and how to build a relationship to last for a lifetime?

Stay involved with each other; develop deeper connection through getting to know each other more day after day, be considerate and understand each other’s weaknesses, be supportive and appreciate accomplishments be it big or small. Trust each other.

Do not keep things to yourself if you need to talk about something important. Do not lie. Always open the lines of communication.

Arguments, misunderstandings, disagreements and other conflicts are just normal especially when it comes to family matters or parenting kids. Don’t let a day pass when you fight, get through all your conflicts with your partner.  Express yourself and resolve the conflict within the day too. Never ever humiliate your partner in front of your kids or other people.  Show respect and talk things out, never say it’s okay even when it’s not.

Stimulate your relationship, unwind and always keep that flame alive. Do morning exercises together or watch a good movie. A tight hug and a kiss or even holding hands are non verbal cues that can bring a feeling of being loved, attention and security which also strengthens association. Do not expect too much from your partner for it will only put pressures on your relationship. Nobody’s perfect, both or either of you may have flaws, but learning how to forgive and taking pride aside can help build a lasting relationship.

A strong marital relationship is primarily based on love, mutual trust and trustworthiness, aside from the faith in each other, it is also important to have a fruitful relationship with God. Mutual and shared faith in God can strongly bind couples and families together in a commitment to common values.